Don't Focus

Don’t Focus (or In Praise of the Niche-Less Blog)

One of the quotes on my outgoing email is this one from Francis Ford Coppola: "Parents always say focus on something. Don’t focus. Do all the things you love and someday it will come together and you will see what you are. And the things that you did ... will all be relevant." When I … Continue reading Don’t Focus (or In Praise of the Niche-Less Blog)

Blanket

Blanket

In the darkest of the wee hours Quiet save for the white noise of forced heat and the hum of silence I half-wake into that twilight place and find that I am huddled snugly beneath the down My left leg tucked like a puzzle piece between your legs. They are cool. I strain through the … Continue reading Blanket

Wedding Rings

Turns Out I Really Am Selfish

The only other truly significant boyfriend I ever had, decades ago - who has had an enormous impact on my life - once told me that I am selfish.  I don't remember my age at the time - I was 16 or 17 perhaps - but I never forgot that.  For some years, I didn't … Continue reading Turns Out I Really Am Selfish

Wedding Rings

Marriage: The One Question We Always Get and the Answer

Those are my rings in the picture, my weathered hand.  Thirty years ago, this hand looked younger, less wrinkled ... but it was attached to a younger, less-wrinkled me.  Those wrinkles have been earned.  Were this not a relatively new set of rings (you know, weight gain, damage, etc.), I am certain that, if you … Continue reading Marriage: The One Question We Always Get and the Answer